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2026-09-23

X: Stayed at a friend's place. Y: Pool and window were nice, friends were meh

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Consent note - Obtained explicit permission of my friend before writing this note, although he did not influence the contents of the note.
I've been wanting to experimenting with staying with a roommate for many months lol. Finally ran the experiment.

Major pros

I love the attached swimming pool.
- I realised I would swim a lot more if the pool is within same building complex, as opposed to 10-15 min away. This is also why I keep weights in my room as opposed to visiting a gym.
- I realised I would swim a lot more if nobody else is in the pool, as opposed to it being crowded.
- Activation barrier is less, basically.
I like the big window.
- Lot of sunlight but not a lot of heat. This actually matters.

Minor pros

I found it slightly easier to meet my target to 2 human interactions per week.
- I have left before I got bored of playing board games with this person. I think I would probably get bored if I played more with them, but haven't hit this threshold yet. Again, reduced activation barrier to scheduling board games, as opposed to having to travel all the way to their place.
- This is not a big pro, but is worth mentioning.

Major cons

I feel mildly less safe being around people. I don't think this fear is irrational.
- I want the freedom to be able to disappear for a week (or a month, or more) and not have to explain myself to anyone. Especially given my line of work, this is important.
- While staying here, I was preparing for ham radio as opposed to working on anything particularly sensitive. But if I was working on something sensitive, I would still prefer not staying with people I don't trust that much.
Costs significantly more than my budget.
- On my current budget, I definitely can't afford an attached pool lmao.

Minor cons

Food logistics
- Food was supposedly better than my current place, but I didn't notice it much. What I did notice (a little, not a lot) was that food would sometimes not be on time or it would be non-veg, hence forcing me to order and then wait for the order. (I am not blaming my friend at all for this, in case he is reading this.)

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