2026-04-30

# Disclaimer post - Why do I write about my sex life online?

Disclaimer
 - **Quick Note**
 - NSFW - sex

Main
 - I think the primary reason is just out of principle. I think there is significant probability that we are heading towards a world with zero privacy for everyone in the next 5-30 years. Multiple offence-defence balances seem to be shifting towards information coming out publicly not being kept secret. I am experimenting with this in my own life, to test the boundaries of how far I can go with this. Practice, not theory, is what matters ultimately.
 - By default, I lightly anonymise identities of other people around me when talking about it publicly, for example, identities of people I've had sex with. This means a couple minutes of google search won't reveal who I am talking about. However, it is possible that a dedicated attacker building custom tools could reveal this, and ofcourse a government investigation spending multiple years of labour could definitely reveal this. If you notice I have written something about you anonymised, but want it even more anonymised, then let me know, I will most likely comply.
 - By default, I am not interested in discussing my sex life with people I don't know well. Just because I have written about it here doesn't mean I am interested in discussing it with strangers. If we know each other well, then depending on circumstances, you are free to discuss it with me.

Longer answer
 - I don't actually think my sex life is that interesting to be honest, as of 2026-04. I don't think it's likely you'll learn some deep secret about human sexuality from it.
 - I don't think being exhibitionist is a major driver for why I am doing this. It could be a minor driver though, although that discussion is nuanced and I won't have it in this post.
 - It is IMO likely that if lots of people's sex life was public, then you could identify trends and these will be quite valuable to society. In which case, I will just be yet another datapoint in this dataset.
 - I do think that the stakes of discussing the topic of sex are civilisation-scale. Differences of thought and action around sex/family/parenting seem one of the fundamental ideological dividers between people of different socioeconomic classes, of different religions and different nationalities. Whether a US-China technological arms race causes human extinction or whether we successfully build avert this by building a world government, may very well end up hinging on questions like whether US and Chinese citizens could atleast somewhat agree with each on the topic of sex/family/parenting.