2026-01-03
Date me
I am looking for someone who satisfies following criteria:
- age 18-40, woman, living in India (or willing to help me shift to US or UK)
- ideally, a polyamorous long-term relationship. otherwise, a short-term relationship
- doesnt require meeting more than once a week
- gives her partner lot of freedom
- intellectually curious
- if you want kids with me, you should be atheist so we don't conflict over how to raise the kid. otherwise, we could still date, but I will probably eventually have kids with another partner who is atheist
Some activities we could do together
- consume substances (but not more than once a week, unless I'm on vacation or similar)
- play board games
- go swimming
- attend dance class
- go karaoke
- jam together (I play drums)
- (I am also open to new hobbies, although there's no guarantee it'll stick. We don't necessarily need to have the same hobbies in order to date, these are just some suggestions.)
Potential failure modes, based on my past experiences with dating
- I am unhappy often. I don't want this to spread to you, or create an unhealthy level of dependence in the relationship. I have some strategies for how to ensure this, but it is complicated. Also, it is fair if you choose to date someone happier than me. I have tried very hard to fix my unhappiness over multiple years, but now I've shifted more towards just accepting it.
- I am fairly blunt. I strongly prefer Ask culture over Guess culture. I can tone this down if requested, but only to some extent.
It is entirely possible neither of these become a problem, because you are not the same as people I've met in the past. If it does become a problem, best to discuss in detail one-to-one.
Want more info on me?
- Just roam around my website or my youtube channel. Unfortunately I have mostly only published work-related content so far.
- I will one day upload more info about my personal life online (either text or video) so you can know me better in a non-work context. Right now I haven't prioritised it (but maybe I should? idk)
- I used to maintain an older date me document that is more detailed. But that contains a lot of chaos, and is probably mostly written to myself, not to a potential date.
Please reach out if interested.
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