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2026-02-11

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I am looking for someone who satisfies following criteria:

Age 18-40, woman
Living in India (or willing to help me shift to US or UK)
Ideally, a polyamorous long-term relationship. Otherwise, a short-term relationship
Doesn't require meeting more than once a week
Gives her partner a lot of freedom. (See the section on potential failure modes below)
Intellectually curious
If you want kids with me, you should be atheist so we don't conflict over how to raise the kid. Otherwise, we could still date, but I will probably eventually have kids with another partner who is atheist

Some activities we could do together

play board games
go swimming
attend dance class
go karaoke
jam together (I play drums)
(I am also open to new hobbies, although there's no guarantee it'll stick. We don't necessarily need to have the same hobbies in order to date, these are just some suggestions.)

Potential failure modes, based on my past experiences with dating

I am unhappy often. I don't want this to spread to you, or create an unhealthy level of dependence in the relationship. I have some strategies for how to ensure this, but it is complicated. Also, it is fair if you choose to date someone happier than me. I have tried very hard to fix my unhappiness over multiple years, but now I've shifted more towards just accepting it.
I am fairly blunt. I strongly prefer Ask culture over Guess culture. I can tone this down if requested, but only to some extent.

Potential failure modes, based on my guesses of the future

I think there's a significant probability I will switch cities or switch my belief system or even risk my life over my beliefs in the next 5 years. If we have a conflict over this, I will put in significant effort to find a compromise. I cannot guarantee we will find a compromise, however. If I'm put in a situation where I'm forced to choose between acquiring knowledge and power to reshape the world, and keeping my partner, I will pick the former.

It is entirely possible none of these things become a problem, because you are not the same as people I've met in the past. If it does become a problem, best to discuss in detail 1-to-1.

Want more info on me?

I have not tried to share a lot of info about myself on this doc itself, because I increasingly think that that is best done via "show, don't tell".

See also: Why use "show, don't tell" on date me docs

If you want more info on me, some places you might wanna look:

My personal website has a few personal posts now
Why I am polyamorous
My older (now abandoned) date me doc
So far I haven't prioritised uploading non-work-related content (but maybe I should? idk)

Contact me

Please reach out if you are interested.

Referral system

Please also reach out if you can connect me to someone who might be interested. (For instance, you can send them this post.)

If you connect me to the right person, you will be doing me a huge favour, and I will make sure to repay the favour in whatever way you prefer.
In particular, if you want to be paid, I can pay you $3000 for connecting me to someone I stay in a relationship with for atleast 5 years, and $600 for connecting me to someone I stay in a relationship with for atleast 1 year.