2024-12-12# My peopleHere's my current model for deciding how to interact with p
eople in my life.Reasons to have people in your life: - physical intimacy - regu
lar emotional support - regular financial support - regular logistical support -
emergency financial support - emergency emotional support - emergency logistica
l support - advice - casual interactionThe first two are the most dependent on l
iving in the same place as the other person.Scarce resources include time, money
and location.Receiving and giving advice, and casual interactions require very
little time commitment. So I can freely do this with many people. I value novelt
y and ideological diversity, so I want to get advice from and casually interact
with many people.I am wary of promising regular emotional / logistical / financi
al support to anyone.I have promised emergency emotional and logistical support
to a set of people I consider close. I'll provide a 6-month notice period if I e
ver want to break these commitments. I'm hoping most of these commitments last m
ultiple decades. (If you're unsure if you're on this list, please message me and
ask.) Even if I haven't promised you anything, feel free to ask me for help whe
n you need it. I'm generally helpful, time and location permitting.I am wary of
promising emergency financial support to anyone. I have offered financial suppor
t before (loan or donation) and I am open to requests for the same. If you are a
sking me for financial support, it will help your case if you have: - a good rep
utation verifiable by your social circle, and they are informed about the suppor
t you've received - what a bank would consider credit-worthy, such as a source o
f income or collateral